Fraught Families, Queer Elders, and the Virtue (and Vices) of Filial Piety

There are many reasons to be suspicious of filial piety: Sociological research details the harms done to LGBTQ+ persons trapped in harmful families of origin. Family abolitionists contend that the family has been co-opted by neocapitalism. Even the New Testament expresses suspicion of biogenetic relations. Yet for all these risks, a growing recognition of the place of queer elders in communities—as well as the ageism, idealized tropes, and other problems—point to a need to reevaluate the role that queer elders play and the obligations due to them. I argue that, fraught as it is, the concept of filial piety can help us do this work. I utilize sociological research, Confucian virtue ethics, queer theory arguments, and theological work on adoption to theorize the benefits of filial piety (the goods conferred by intergenerational relationships; the need to give and receive support across one’s lifespan; etc.) as well as its vicious shortcomings.